It sounds crazy to say, but it may have been one of the best things that happened to me. I reduced my alcohol intake. I have made it a top priority that I am stress-free, calm, well-rested, and have a healthy diet. The illness gave me a reawakening to always having joy of my life.
In 2020, I noticed my left breast shape was puckered and skin looked like a mandarin orange. I also got prickly skin zaps in the same area. I was diagnosed with Ductal Carcinoma in my left sideStage 2/ Grade 3, and Lobular Carcinoma in my right side Stage 3/ Grade 3.
Hearing a doctor say the three words "you have cancer" is one of the most devastating things you’ll probably ever hear as it shakes you to the core of your soul. I strongly felt that I either was going to lay down and let it consume me, or that I was going to stand up and tell it "no, not today Satan," and that it was going to have a big battle on its hands with me. Waiting for test results is absolutely torturous and you always wish everything would happen sooner than it does but rest assured that the doctors are doing the best they can with the volume of people that have this terrible illness.
My doctor told me it would be 12 to 18 months that I would be going through the treatment and I laughed at her - but she was 100% right, it was exactly that! A friend told me that my job now was to keep myself healthy not only mentally, physically, but spiritually too. Even though it was one of the worst things that ever happened to me, it was probably one of the best things that could’ve as it gave me more opportunity to find joy every day, even with the most mundane things.
Cancer brought me closer to my faith, my now wife and family, and gave me a much greater path and purpose to help others.
Cancer showed me that my time is precious, that my relationships are precious, that my life is precious, and that I need to protect my energy at all costs. I’ve found a new purpose and am now focused on the things that matter most.
The greatest gift cancer gave me was the opportunity to transform into the strongest and best version of myself. Cancer taught me that we need to give pain the space to breathe, in order to heal. Every painful, heart wrenching situation gives us perspective, and reminds us how we only have this one life to live. It gives us an opportunity to grow and become stronger.